If you’re reading this and you’re a man, you are obviously committed to stopping #GBV. To continue to be a part of the solution, it’s important that you speak to other men about GBV and the societal attitudes that make it so pervasive.
You should worry if you’ve heard a male friend say or hint at to any of these statements:
- We cannot and can never separate or divorce.
- I cannot live without her.
- I have had sex with a drunk person.
- I have ignored someone asking me to stop continuing a sexual act.
- She cheated on me, so I had to punish her.
- I believe that when she says ‘NO’, she means ‘YES’.
- I spent money on her – she owed me sex, so I took what she owed me.
- She was dressed like she wanted sex.
If you’ve heard these from a friend, you should check on their family, and share some of the resources attached here with friends:
- Afrodaddy, Getting Men to Talk about Manhood and GBV
- Eusebius McKaiser, The psychology of toxic masculinity
- Promundo Global website
- The Good Men Project website
- The Mask you Live In documentary